Overwhelmed by Attempts at Perfection

Recently, the word I would most often use to describe myself is Overwhelmed. I’ve been overwhelmed by the dishes, the laundry, the appointments I need to take my daughters to, and learning to take care of both children by myself at home all day. I love that my wonderful husband has a salaried position now that he LOVES. However it is a bit overwhelming to go from having someone else around with you all day with the children to being on your own. I honestly admire my friends who are military wives and parent several children on their own for months. I’m honestly not sure I could ever do that without ending up in a padded room in a straightjacket. However, I digress.

I came to the realization that I needed a way to cope with all of it. My friend Nikki has been recommending Flylady to me for years and for some reason I just wrote it off as something that wouldn’t work for me. However, I have recently been proven wrong. (Nikki can say “I told you so” anytime) Just the first baby step of shining my sink makes each day start better, and getting “dressed to shoes” makes me feel better about myself. I have actually started putting on some make-up every day and fixing my hair. It’s amazing how those little things have started helping my self esteem. I no longer spend the day in my jammies and bare feet- instead I get dressed to shoes and fix my hair and feel better about the day ahead. I feel prettier. Plus, Flylady is big on reminding us all to drink our water and that is both good for my kidney issues and my weight loss!

Another thing about Flylady that has really changed things for me is the philosophy that the cleaning doesn’t have to all get done in one day. The house did not get this way in one day, it cannot get fixed all in one day either.  I swish and swipe my bathroom every day so it stays clean, I shine my sink before bed every night, I do the dishes as they are made, do 1 load of laundry a day ( I usually end up doing 2 though), load the dishwasher and start it every morning. Getting control of the kitchen has improved my outlook when it comes to the house. Before I started the flylady program, I hated coming home from errands or church because my kitchen was a mess and it was the first thing I saw when I walked in the house. Now, I love walking into my kitchen! Its the one room of my house that I have under control. Hopefully after this weeks zone (the bathroom and one other room) I will have more rooms to feel proud of!

As a friend of mine put it- its like being “flywashed.” Your entire outlook on things changes. Its amazing and I cannot say enough positive things about Flylady and the baby steps! Speaking of which- time for me to go to bed so I can get up early and get ready for the day!