I love my daughters. I love them to pieces.
I love spending time with them & I love giving them snuggles.
I love focusing on them- but I do find sometimes that I am neglecting my own personal growth and development.
This year I”m working on changing that. I think it is important as a mother to still do things for yourself that make you happy. A happy mom= happy kids. All that jazz.
Sometimes though it can be hard to find time to do this and even harder sometimes to figure out WHAT exactly you want to do to accomplish these feat. I think that it requires some self reflection. What do you like to do besides take care of your children? What do you like to do when you have an hour to yourself? What did you do before kids that really excited you?
Sometimes it can even be hard to get motivated to get around to doing anything for yourself even if you figure out what it is you want to do?
Trust me- I’ve been there recently. When I do have free time- I usually end up cleaning or taking a shower. However, this year I’m going to try to remedy that.
The first step- working on my relationship with God. It’s always “easier” when I can actually attend church every week to keep me on track. However, it shouldn’t be that way. I should be having a relationship/talking to God daily. Last year I kept wanting to get in the habit of doing daily devotions/Bible reading but I was really bad about forgetting to do it, or getting on Facebook first or whatever. I have finally gotten myself into a routine that allows me to read my Bible and devotional every morning in relative peace. This is helping my day so much -setting the tone for the rest of it<3
The second step-taking some free online classes through coursera.org. I used to love school. I had to take a break from getting my degree two years ago because the stress of all the doctors appointments, therapy stuff, and trying to get pregnant with our little one was just too much for me. I was having a hard time focusing and completing stuff and it was just not going well. Plus- I still had no idea what I wanted to do degree wise. So I took a break. However, I sorely miss it. So- I’ve got several classes picked out that I will take this year!
My third step- feeling better about myself. Actually- I guess most all of this stuff has to do with that. I do admit that I have self image issues when it comes to my body. It definitely does not look anywhere near what it did pre-baby. I’ve got about 50 pounds to lose. This year I’m going to work towards losing those 50 pounds and getting back to a weight that makes me feel better. Although - how I feel and my health is more important than the number on the scale.
Basically- the point of all of this is that its important to work on ourselves. Our self esteem, our hobbies, etc. I’ll also be working on my sewing skills and other crafty skills this year. Exercising, doing crafts, relaxing and reading my favorite book adn etc. all help relieve stress. I believe that when you have less stress- you have more patience. This is a good thing for the littles in your life! Happy mommy & wife=happy hubby and kids.
Now- I need to get my kidlets in the tub and get them to bed so I can have some sewing or scrapbooking time!